Blessing of the Hands by Rev. Daniel L. Harris
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken
I Choose you (This is one of my favorite)
(Groom) and (Bride) there are three words stronger than the words I love you, and today you stand together in front of me, your family and friends to say those three words to each other: ‘I choose you’. You have spent enough time together to know many of the quirks, habits and things that drive each other nuts, and you know that there is no one else you’d rather make this journey with.
You are saying to one another, I choose you over all others. I choose you to share happiness with, I choose you to care for, I choose you to share my innermost self with. I choose you to have a family with, I choose you to grow old with, and I choose you to love forever.
Today you choose to cross the threshold and enter into a new and lasting lifetime commitment to each other. You will have to keep choosing each other, every day throughout the years. Some days that will be easy, some days it will be harder. But during those hard times, if you will reflect back on today, and all of the reasons you chose to be here, you will continue to confirm your choice.
We are all here to witness and celebrate this new beginning, and to show our faith that you have made the perfect choice in each other. When you walk back down that aisle, side by side, it will be as husband and wife, and you can celebrate the rest of your life with the one that chose you!
The Art of A Good Marriage by Wilferd Arlan Peterson
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage, the little things are big things…
* It is never being too old to hold hands.
* It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
* It is never going to sleep angry.
* It is never taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
* It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
* It is standing together facing the world.
* It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
* It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
* It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
* It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
* It is not looking for perfection in each other.
* It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
* It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
* It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
* It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
* It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
* It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
* It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. While the commitment begins with the two of you, its effect radiates outward. It touches your family and friends and ultimately all of society. When this commitment is seriously made and continuously fulfilled, it leads to the richest and most rewarding of human relationships.
This is, I am sure, what you (Groom), want for (Bride) and it is also what you, (Bride), want for (Groom). It is also what your family and friends who are gathered here want for the two of you. When a couple treats each other with kindness, love, and respect, the best of what marriage has to offer is the result. Your relationship will take more than love. It will take trust to know in your hearts that you want the best for each other. Dedication to stay open to one another, to learn and grow, even when it is difficult to do so. And faith to go forward together without knowing what the future holds for you both.
While love is our natural state of being, these other qualities are not as easy to come by. They are not a destination, but a journey. Marriage is a give and take between two personalities, a mingling of two endowments which diminishes neither, but enhances both. Your joining together today becomes all the more important to recognize the significance of a devoted and affectionate family life.
Reading Inspired by Corinthians 13 – Written by Amy K. Maddox
* Love is patient and kind. After a long day of work and the dishes aren’t done and no one wants to make dinner, love counts to ten before speaking.
* Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. It doesn’t compare to other marriages or other people, but is thankful for the one standing right in front of you.
* Love isn’t boastful or proud or rude –it doesn’t say, “I told you so,” or “What were you thinking?” or “See, you should have taken a left back there, not a right.” Love holds its tongue, knows when to speak and when to be quiet.
* Love does not demand its own way. Love swallows pride, becomes humble, and considers others more than self.
* Love is not irritable. Even when the toilet paper is on the roll the wrong way for the 475th time, love offers grace.
* Love keeps no record of being wronged. It doesn’t remember the argument from three months ago and dredge it up whenever is convenient. Love lets that argument go.
* Love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. * Love is a champion, a best friend, an ally, a partner.
* Love, on our own, is impossible. I can guarantee that at some point you will lose patience. You will be rude. You will speak without thinking, or with thinking, and you will be irritable.
* But the best thing about Love is that Love is a person. And when we can’t love—which is often—we fall on the one who can.
* And because of Jesus, we forgive each other for being rude, or irritable, or for holding on to that argument, or for not doing the dishes. We give grace, and we start again.
* Because Love—He never gives up, he never loses faith in us, he is our hope, and he endures through every circumstance.
“I Cross My Heart” – George Strait
Our love is unconditional, we knew it from the start.
I see it in your eyes, you can feel it from my heart.
From here on after let’s stay the way we are right now,
And share all the love and laughter that a lifetime will allow.
You will always be the miracle that makes my life complete,
And as long as there’s a breath in me, I’ll make yours just as sweet.
As we look into the future, it’s as far as we can see,
So let’s make each tomorrow be the best that it can be.
And if along the way we find a day it starts to storm,
You’ve got the promise of my love to keep you warm.
I cross my heart and promise to
Give all I’ve got to give to make all your dreams come true.
In all the world you’ll never find a love as true as mine.
The Key to Love
The key to love is understanding…as it is the little things that say so much by themselves.
The key to love is forgiving…to accept each other’s faults and pardon mistakes,
The key to love is sharing…sharing your good fortunes as well as bad, together.
The key to love is giving …Giving without thought of return, but with the hope of just a simple smile, and by giving in but never giving up.
My Love – Linda Lee Elrod
When I met you, I had no idea how much my life was about to be changed… but then, how could I have known? A love like ours happens once in a lifetime.
You were a miracle to me, the one who was everything I had ever dreamed of, the one I thought existed only in my imagination. And when you came into my life, I realized that what I had always thought was happiness couldn’t compare to the joy loving you brought me.
You are a part of everything I think and do and feel, and with you by my side, I believe that anything is possible. (this day) gives me a chance to thank you for the miracle of you…you are, and always will be, the love of my life.
Marriage is one of the most important obligations that any two people commit to in their lifetime. Marriage offers the greatest challenges to overcome, but in return, marriage gives us love, strength and support from one another. It is the couple who perseveres and demonstrates unrelenting patience and faith, who obtains the highest form of happiness within their marriage. A good marriage is dependent upon many factors, but the first prerequisite is a strong bond of friendship and respect for one another. Your love for each other will grow deeper with the passing of each day. The genuine liking of each other, the willingness to accept each other’s strong and weak points with understanding and respect, is the foundation for a strong marriage.
Love by Roy Croft
I love you, not for what you are, but what I am, when I am with you.
I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but what you are making of me.
I love you for the part of me that you bring out.
I love you for putting your hand into my heaped up heart and passing over all the frivolous and weak things that you cannot help seeing there, and for drawing out into the light all the beautiful and radiant things that no one else has looked quite far enough to find…
I love you because you have done more than any creed could have done to make me good, and more than any fate could have done to make me happy.
You have done it without a touch, without a word, without a sign.
You have done it by being yourself.
Perhaps that is what being your love means after all.
Soul Mates by Richard Bach
A soul mate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soul mate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soul mate is the one who makes life come to life.
The Magic of Marriage – From the writings of Helen Farries
It’s the eyes that say, “I Love you”. Even though no word is said,
It’s the hand that touches your hand, pledging love for years ahead.
It’s the faith that’s bright and shining, when your own is not so strong.
It’s the magic little moment that so often come along.
It’s a million little memories that your two hearts store away,
It’s the endless little blessings that you find day after day.
It’s the dreams you share together,
It’s the joys and It’s the cares,
It’s the hope and disappointments,
It’s the thoughts and It’s the prayers.
It’s the sharing life together, ever singing “Love’s Sweet Song”.
May this magic bless your marriage, from this moment all lifelong!